PREGNANCY&BIRTH FAQ

Because a lot of people send me asks and messages about being pregnant and my labour and if you want to know something it’s probably here, if it is not, feel free to send it to my ask box, I’ll answer and make sure it is here :)

Pregnancy FAQ 

How did you find out you were pregnant?:

The day that I officially found out was weird, I just knew, I told one of my friends in a bathroom a couple of weeks before I did a test, that I was beginning to suspect that I was pregnant, she told me that I probably wasn’t and not to panic ect… and then just about a week or two before this happened I’d done a urine sample for a friend because they needed one for a clinic and the clinic needed it on the spot but she didn’t need to pee, so not knowing I was pregnant I did that for her and just a few hours or so after I’d just done a home pregnancy test and found out myself she called and said “Misty, that sample you did for me says I’m pregnant which means you’re pregnant!!!” and by this point the I was just kind of like “yep…. sounds about right :’)”. so I just kind of had a day of people and objects telling me I was pregnant.

What were your first symptoms?:

cravings for crab sticks, throwing up after having the slightest amount to drink, I had really bad hot flushes that would come at random points and I’d have to stop whatever I was doing and literally have to stand and fan myself until I stopped feeling so hot. I was really emotional and moody, I remember at one point me and the father were walking along a dark field in the middle of the night, he said something that really got to me and upset me and I just suddenly ripped my shirt off and my bra and started yelling at him saying “fine then! FINE! is this what you want!??!?” and just power walked ahead. I can’t remember what he said, but I remember it really offending me even though it wasn’t that bad. It’s funny to look back on though, I was so crazy! :’)

Who did you tell first?:

a friend, who I’m actually not friends with any more, I kind of panicked, turned up standing in front of him and threw the test at him and all he said was “shit.”which wasn’t really helpful and I then called Heln in complete shock, she could tell something was wrong, she asked, I told her and then she said literally nothing other than “I will be with you within the hour.” and then literally got to me at the speed of light and then I did the second test and handed it to her without looking at it and that was positive too.

Who was with you when you found out?

just me, I locked myself in my downstairs bathroom while I was doing my first home test.

Was baby planned?

my baby wasn’t planned, but the best things in life are never planned.

How far were you when you found out?:

about 6 weeks.

What was your reaction?:

I started laughing, as weird as that sounds. I think I had a small moment of insanity and I just went into shock, I was sad, but happy, but angry and I was shaking and there were tears in my eyes, I was thinking over and over “Oh my god, I’m having a baby.” I was in complete and utter shock. I knew that I was keeping him from the moment that test said I was pregnant, he was my baby from that moment and I loved him and I wanted him from the moment I found out.

What was the baby’s father’s reaction?:

pure shock.

I called him straight away and before I even said anything he just guessed and he came to see me right away, we talked, he hugged me, we kissed, we had sex talked more, we were both in shock and didn’t know what to do or say to each other, we decided to leave it for that day and talk when the shock had settled a little, because I was practically silent, I was still in shock and trying to be strong, both of us were thinking “what are we going to do?” and he was voicing the thought, it wasn’t helping.

What was the parent’s reactions?:

Well, by the time they found out, I’d ran away from home for a few weeks, so when My aunty Joanne found me a couple of towns away and took me to see my mom, she was just happy to see me, she thought I ran away because I was on hard drugs or something, because of all the moods and the sleeping. she was completely fine about it, as was my dad, because they are the best parents I could ever wish for, I was welcomed home with arms wide open, because they suddenly understood everything, the exhaustion, the sickness, staying out all the time, why I’d wiped the memory on my laptop and my phone before I left so they couldn’t trace me or find out what was wrong, why I left for so long. When I left I was heartbroken, I spent most of my time crying, I cried myself to sleep most nights, I was on the streets most of the daytime, jumping from house to house to sleep there the night until Heln took me in. When I came home I remember I didn’t leave the house for weeks, I never wanted to leave home again.

due date:

DI am due April 1st 2012, he’s a predicted April fools baby.

Boy or girl?:

I’m having a little boy.

how far along were you when you found out he was a boy?

I found out he was a boy at 19 weeks and 5 days. I knew he was a boy anyway, I was so sure I even bought blue boyish stuff before I even officially found out.

Any names?

his name is Elijah Harry James Blenkinsop Weston.

Have you heard the heartbeat?:

yeah, his heart sounded like a train the first time and I cried so much afterwards, it was really emotional.

Who do you think baby will look like?:

I’ve seen close ups of my baby’s face during scans, he has his daddy’s big eyes and tiny nose and he has my little permanent pout. he’s stunning and people who have seen his little face at scans agree, he’s unbelievably beautiful.

Will baby have any siblings?:

maybe very later into my life, but for now he’s enough for me. 

Have you and dad felt baby move?:

He never stops moving around, I feel him all the time, he’s always up to something, he loves sonic youth and David Bowie kicks like crazy to their songs. He also does this weird thing that the nurses at hospital have even commented on as being quite odd, he lays so his head is on my bladder, using it as a pillow and then kicks off the side of my womb so he repeatedly head butts my bladder and makes me really need to pee. He also likes to shove his little baby butt right up against my tummy to the point where you can actually see it and he’s always rolling everywhere and getting hiccups and pushing his hands up against my tummy.

Will you use medication?:

I don’t really know, from what I’ve heard about gas and air it makes you feel like you’re out of control and drunk and my mom almost died giving birth to me using that, so that’s off the cards along with epidural, at this rate I really don’t know what I am going to do, I think I’ll probably just go with whatever I feel like at the time.

Are you scared about labor?:

not really, I’m more bothered about the pre-organisation of what to pack and how to get there, scans and midwife check ups scare me if anything, I’m always scared they’ll tell me Elijah’s heart isn’t beating or something like that, so I always get really worried, upset and generally chewed up before I go to a scan or appointment.

Did you have morning sickness?:

yes and I think somebody should really re-evaluate the term “morning sickness” because I seemed to have it every day, 24/7, morning noon and night until late into my second trimester. 

Cravings?

crab sticks, jalapeños, anything very hot and very spicy, at one point my cravings sort of crossed weird and at one point I used to sit with a bowl of sea food and dip them into raspberry yoghurt and chilli sauce. 

Are you excited?:

I have actually never been so excited for anything in my life.

Who will help with baby after their born?:

My mom, Dad, brother and Heln says she’ll help take care of the baby as long as she can give it back along with other friends and of course his dad.

What is your favorite thing about being pregnant?:

you can eat as much as you like, without people thinking you’re fat.

What is the worst things about being pregnant?:

feeling alone and not being able to eat sushi, not being able to attend college this year, I also really hate it when people try to treat me like I’m feeble, I’m not great at accepting help, I never have been, but I’ve had to get used to admitting defeat on certain things and asking for help.

What one thing do you miss doing since being pregnant?:

I miss going to college sometimes, I couldn’t go back because of my due date being the same date as an exam and I miss being able to run and surf, I was a really active person before I got pregnant, I was always rushing somewhere or doing something and now due to me having a small pelvis and being so skinny and so pregnant, I’m in bed all day sometimes, when I’m having a bad day with my hips and pelvis. I also get some really nasty back pain from the weight of my new 30G boobs, and the weight of my son, I just miss being able to get up and do things.


Why Can’t you go to College this year?

my baby is due right in the middle of my exams, so if I went to college this year, I’d be working towards absolutely nothing and all the course work would have gone towards nothing but a certain fail because I wouldn’t be able to take my exams, so going would just be completely pointless and a waste of money, but I cannot wait to go back next year.

Who is the father?

His name is Lee and I’ve known him quite a few years now. He does some silly things but he always fixes things and his heart is in the right place.

what does being pregnant feel like, do you feel the baby getting heavier? 

being pregnant is really weird, I feel heavy all the time due to my bump and also my boobs, I feel like my weight is all up front and I feel completely off balance sometimes and it’s hard to get up and down because of me being “all front” at the moment, so I get stuck a lot. 

Will you be doing any Pregnancy/Maternity Modelling?

Yes, I will be. I am doing as many shoots as I can while I’m still skinny and as soon as I look super pregnant I will be taking more bookings for maternity/pregnancy modelling.

Does it ever get you mad or sad when other people judge your about being 18 and pregnant?

are you going to maternity classes?

no.

why are you still dying your hair while pregnant?

The only kind of hair dye I use is made up of natural stain based ingredients and is not made up of chemicals. it is of absolutely no threat to my unborn child child. Even if I was dying my hair with chemical based dyes the evidence to suggest the chance and the risk of it actually having an effect on my baby is nothing more than a matter of dermatologist opinion and theory and most dermatologists rubbish the idea. The only way my baby would be harmed by me dying my hair was if I dyed it in early pregnancy with a chemical based dye that gave me an allergic reaction, If I had a injury to my head that allowed the chemicals to get into my blood stream or if I directly inhaled a large amount of the chemicals, Even a doctor will confirm that you are completely fine to dye your hair after the first trimester of pregnancy.


BIRTH FAQ 

When was Elijah born? 

Elijah was born at 8:17pm on Wednesday the 28th of March 2012 after only being hospital a grand total of 7 minutes and being taken there in an ambulance.

Why were you taken in an Ambulance? 

I was taken there via ambulance because my labour suddenly started randomly progressing faster and Elijah stopped moving, the hospital I was booked into said they didn’t believe I was in labour and wouldn’t allow me to go there. I fully dilated 10cm at home and almost gave birth in my garden and my bathroom by myself because Elijah was coming and it wasn’t like I could of asked him politely to wait, so an ambulance was called and I was rushed full speed to hospital.

Where was Elijah born? 

Elijah was born at Durham University Hospital 

How much did Elijah weigh when he was born?

he weighed 6,11.

Who was in the Delivery room with you?

My mom, a family friend and Lee.

did you have any complications?/what went wrong during after you gave birth to Elijah?
 
When I gave birth to Elijah everything went horribly wrong with me. Because my contractions were happening so fast I got multiple severe 2nd degree tears really bad tear in a muscle and strains, I had an exterior tear and a really bad internal tear. I lost quite a bit of blood and nobody even noticed anything was wrong for about 30 minutes until I suddenly got this huge cramp, I started really bleeding heavily and I felt like I was in labour again because I also had some bits of things left inside of me that hadn’t come out due to the speed of my labour so I had to be opened, cut and sewn, I had to have the drugs that are used to induce people to help get the rest of the stuff out of me. at one point I had a surgeon in the room to judge how I was coping and if I needed to go to theatre or if I was coping fine with being awake while I had everything done to me, nobody was really telling me what was happening, I only was told afterwards.

were there any complications with Elijah when he was born?  

Elijah came out with the umbilical chord wrapped around his neck and was full of mucus for a few days afterwards because of his fast trip out, he struggled to keep any milk down for a while.

Now that Elijah is here are you breast feeding or bottle feeding him?

I both breast feed and bottle feed Elijah so he gets the best of both.
 

(Source: malamai)